A pregnant maid of honor has been left stunned after the bride claimed her sibling had “ruined” her upcoming wedding by getting pregnant.
The post, shared by user KeyAccomplished4442 on Reddit, recounted how she had been assigned—not asked—to be maid of honor for her sister’s October 26 child-free wedding in Australia.
Already a mother to one and now expecting twins, the original poster (OP) explained she is due in mid-August and would be caring for newborns just six weeks postpartum at the time of the event.
Despite planning to step down from her maid of honor duties out of concern for her health and new family demands, the OP hadn’t told her sister yet.
But when she became sick during a visit from her sister, after which her husband casually confirmed the pregnancy, the bride lashed out.
“My sister lost it and came into my ensuite, yelling at me that I’m so selfish,” the OP recalled. “She told me I’ve ruined her wedding, and she ‘told me’ not to get pregnant before her wedding.
“Hubby told her she was welcome to leave until she stopped yelling, and I gave her the night to just settle down and mull.
“I called her this morning. She lost it at me on the phone, continued that I ruined her wedding, and I was uninvited.”
Reaction to the post was swift, with the overwhelming majority of Reddit users siding with the OP.
One wrote, “Your sister is selfish. You should back out as MOH and just attend as a guest,” while another added, “Perfect—don’t make her tell you twice, accept you are uninvited and enjoy the new babies.”
“Well, I think we know what your sister is: a massive bridezilla,” one contributor remarked. “This reaction is a classic with self-centered brides.
“It is not so much their day as their year, and God forbid someone has a milestone/accomplishment in the same era as them.”
Wedding Planning
The situation has struck a nerve with many navigating expectations around wedding planning and family roles. As shown in previous reporting, couples who choose child-free weddings often face criticism.
Jenny Marin, who had a child-free wedding in Illinois, told Newsweek: “I have family members that stopped speaking to me due to this decision… This is still a topic being discussed in the family.”
Brides like Marin cite safety, cost and guest enjoyment for choosing an adult-only event, though only nine percent of people surveyed by YouGov supported completely child-free weddings.
Another bride, Kalanit Emanuelle, said the choice led to strangers online calling her a “terrible mother” and ending friendships. “People get so incensed over a wedding that isn’t theirs,” she told Newsweek.
Sibling Toxicity
The deeper issue in this case, according to psychologists, may stem from underlying dysfunction.
Chloe Carmichael, a clinical psychologist, explained in Newsweek that sibling toxicity often involves unhealthy competitiveness or controlling behavior.
“It can also manifest through children, subtly and constantly comparing your children to each other,” she said.
The article further notes that toxic siblings can demand compliance with personal demands, guilt-trip others, and attempt to control the family narrative.
Saad, another expert cited in the piece, emphasized that exhaustion after interactions may signal a toxic pattern. “It is all about understanding how you receive your sibling’s toxicity,” she said.
In this case, the OP chose to prioritize her health and family after being berated, stepping down as maid of honor and planning to attend as a guest—if still invited.
But after being formally uninvited, the path forward remains unclear.
Newsweek has reached out to KeyAccomplished4442 for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case.
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